Calculating the Level of Issue Resolution

Most to all the self-created and externally generated issues that fuel drama need to get resolved; otherwise, they risk accumulating into relationship baggage, feeding negative thoughts about each other.

To help track the level of issue resolution, I define four fundamental four basic levels:

Now it’s time to tie Level of Relationship Drama and Issue Resolution back to Quality.

Relationship Quality

Now, mapping the Level of Relationship Drama and Level of Issue Resolution back to the RGQ, as shown in Figure 15-4:

• A STRONG QUALITY relationship occurs when you have a comfortably low level of drama and issues are always getting resolved

• The WEAKEST QUALITY relationship is when you two have a high-level of relationship drama and issues are rarely getting resolved.

• An AVERAGE QUALITY relationship happens when you’re living on the edge, barely comfortable with the level of drama you’re experiencing. You’re picking your difficult conversation battles, as likely you’ll have to deal with a fight, and it’s probably hit or miss whether the issue will get resolved.

In other words,

• When you’re operating with a STRONG relationship, you’re spending little time dealing with drama, as you resolve any inevitable issues, which leave you more time to have fun together. Chemistry together also tends to grow from this place.
• When you’re operating with a WEAK relationship, it’s extremely difficult to want to spend time together, as far too often it results in a fight. Chemistry dies as well.
• With an AVERAGE relationship, you tend to drift away from each other feeling more like roommates, versus the passionate lovers you might once have been.