Analytically Speaking
How Good Do You Think Your Relationship Is?
Analytically Speaking, How Good Do You Think Your Relationship Is?
Analytically thinking, how much drama is too much drama for you and the person you’re with? Given we all make mistakes, there will always be some level of conflict and drama in your relationship and issues that emerge in need of resolving. Life isn’t perfect; you’re not perfect; the person you’re with isn’t perfect. So now what?
How do you know if what you have together is strong enough to stay together for the long term? How much drama and conflict is too much? How many unresolved issues are too many?
To answer these questions, you need to ask yourselves two fundamental questions:
- Level of Relationship Drama: How comfortable are you with the level of conflict and drama in your relationship? In other words, is the quantity of issues in your relationship too much for your long-term comfort level? We call the quantity of issues you two deal with the Level of Relationship Drama.
- Level of Issue Resolution: Are the issues always getting resolved, or are you finding yourself further and further buried in unresolved, accumulating problems? We call this the Level of Issue Resolution.
By answering these two questions uniquely for the two of you, you’ll both be in a much better position to answer the fundamental question of how good a relationship you have together, analytically speaking. This is because you’ll be able to answer if within your relationship there’s too much conflict and drama, and/or too many unresolved issues for your long-term tastes.
How is your "Analytically Speaking" relationship strength determined
We all have a certain level of conflict and resulting drama that we can comfortably live with in the long run. Put another way, what is your drama pain threshold? It’s important that you’re very clear about what your conflict comfort level needs are, and then honor this level when choosing a long term relationship. After all, if you’re with someone where the amount of conflict is above your drama pain threshold, then you might be seriously challenged trying to sustain years of this much conflict.
When determining a score for how you analytically think of your relationship, we first measure the level of relationship drama between you two:
Where the four contributing components to this model are defined as follows:
- Frequency: On average, how often do you two have conflict with each other?
- Duration: On average, when you two have conflict, how long do you two fight?
- Intensity: On average, when you two have conflict, how intense are the fights?
- Negativity: On average, how often do you have negative thoughts towards her?
These are all mapped to your level of comfort with each value.
On the opposite axis, we show how often on average you think you’re resolving issues together.
At the strongest level, you’re very comfortable with the level of drama you have together and all issues that do arise are getting resolved. At this strongest level, you two give yourselves the highest opportunity to have fun together.
At the weakest level, the level of relationship drama is extremely painful for you and you two are never resolving issues. At this weakest level, you’re likely spending a considerable amount of time fighting with each other, giving yourselves less time to have fun together.
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