Sustain
Stay Relationship Fit
Never Quit, Never Give Up Attitude
And as the days turn into months then into years, true teams just continue to work as teams. This is not about winning the first game, then falling back into egocentric, all-about-ME blame-throwers at mid-season. Sustaining a strong relationship is about consistently and continuously staying in front of the relationship train, riding the quality track.
In other words, you continue to stay Relationship Fit every minute of every day of every year:
- You’re about staying at peace internally.
- You’re about witnessing your thoughts and not about letting your ego control you. You’re not about wallowing in negativity.
- You’re about letting go of attachments that don’t serve your best interests
- You’re about staying in strong physical health. Strong body. Strong Mind.
- You admit to your contributions to issues. You realize you’re not perfect and this is okay. You want to learn more about your weaknesses so ultimately you can be a stronger partner.
- You’re about minimizing your self-creation of issues and drama. You’re about resolving all issues that emerge
- You’re about kindness and integrity.
- You’re about deploying strong communication and anger plays.
- You know that feeling stuck is an opportunity for growth.
- You’re about maintaining your gumption, regardless of the issue or situation.
- You’re about being the strongest partner possible.
- You continue to care, as you continue your commitment to relationship excellence.
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At this point you have both made a long-term commitment to each other. But to state the obvious, life together will no doubt be a journey filled with highs (fun) and lows (drama). Of course, enjoy the times filled with phenomenal fun.
During any and all drama infested lows, hold on to your never give up attitude. Remember that even those times when the fighting is at its absolute worse, you love her (although your anger and anxiety in the moment may be masking those loving feelings). Don’t stop caring for her even when her Demons have turned her into bitchy Godzilla-bride reincarnated, or you feel and believe she has severely wronged you. Don’t surrender to feelings of fight or flight. Instead, stay present and stay curious. As long as you don’t think about quitting the relationship, you will find an unlimited supply of gumption to keep trying to figure out what’s going on. No blame throwing – only respectful problem solving.
Ultimately, the quality of your relationship will be determined by how much fun versus drama you two have together. Continue to be relationship fit by minimizing how much self-created drama you inflict on the relationship through weak relationship behavior. In parallel, stay relationship fit by not allowing any of her relationship weak behavior to take you off your strength game.Â
Put simply, you’ve made the commitment to be with her for the rest of your life. You want phenomenal fun. You don’t want unceasing drama. Choose to stay relationship fit. You only live once. And since you’ve chosen to live this once with her, choose to do your best to have the highest quality relationship possible.
How are you doing?
Curious how you’re doing? (Re)start with Stage 1: Overall Fitness Assessment and get a fresh view of how things are going. You can also view your Relationship Grade, analytics in your Relationship Journal and your overall Relationship Workout Dashboard.
