Making a Life Altering Relationship Decision with No Regrets

Making a Life Altering Relationship Decision with No Regrets

As a single person in search of finding ‘your forever person’, you’ll inevitably encounter a pivotal relationship decision when you’ve been dating someone for awhile: Should you make a long-term commitment – perhaps even get down on one knee – or should you breakup — so you don’t waste more time not dating your forever person — or should you just continue dating each other – and if so, for how long until you ultimately make the commit or breakup decision?

Similarly, when in a committed relationship – perhaps married – many couples will face a similar decision: Continue their commitment to each other or end things, such as seeking a divorce.

When you make a long-term commitment decision, including getting married, ideally this commitment leads you two down a forever “until death do us part path” with no regrets for making the long-term commitment. Forever can be a very long time, however; you’re bound to have bumps in the road no matter how great you are together.

And the statistics are stark: About half of all marriages end in divorce, with a third of first marriages dissolving within the first decade, and the median duration of first marriages that end in divorce at approximately 7 years.

The choice between parting ways or staying together becomes particularly challenging when affection and love persist amidst what seems to be an overwhelming amount of conflict and difference. This decision becomes even more complex when children are in the picture.

The aftermath of a breakup can be particularly challenging as well. Once the initial anger subsides and suppressed emotions resurface, you might be overwhelmed by regret and a deep sense of longing. This wave of nostalgia can be as intense as withdrawal symptoms, casting doubt on your decision to part ways. In those moments, you can second guess your decision to breakup with her; all you want is to have her back.

Clearly, the choice to commit, breakup, or keep striving forward in a relationship is often filled with emotion. So, what strategies can you employ to infuse more analytical reasoning to help your decision-making process, and reduce the risk you’ll later find yourself regretting your decision?

This is where the Relationship Workout Five-Step Action Plan can help – providing a way to think through the Relationship Decision to Commit, Breakup or Persevere – by providing a structured approach to thinking through this significant life decision.

There are actually two versions of this action plan: one for couples without children, and another for those with children, acknowledging that the impact of your decisions extends to the younger members of the family.