Get a Clue
Let’s begin with a simple statement: You can date, live with and marry anyone. The question is what will the quality of your relationship be day-to-day? Will it be filled a majority of the time with fun, joy and love? Or will you more likely be using words like mediocre, miserable, awful and/or nightmare when answering the question “how’s it going” to your closest of friends?
In any case, we can all improve how our partners and we show up in our relationships.
In fact, in this age of physical health and awareness, aren’t we often neglecting the most vital part of our overall health, our relationship health? Imagine that you’ve dreamed of sculpting your body to look and feel great. There’s no doubt that you have the skills and the determination to propel your body from its current state of pudginess (or weak looking skinny) so that cute brunette down the hall notices you.
So what is your game plan? How are you going to get those abs screaming for attention? You go to the big chain gym down the street and become a member. Then you head over to the vitamin shop at the mall and buy the big jug of whey protein powder to mix with your frozen strawberries and soymilk. Your doctor makes you cough and gives you the green light to hit the weights. A few weeks later, your subscription to “Muscle & Fitness” arrives in the mail and you pull out the six-week workout plan advertised on the front cover (or you just read it online). Now you’re ready. The preparations have been made, the supplies are at your disposal, and it’s time to get your butt off the couch and your body into awesome shape.
With all your preparation completed and the path to success drawn out, there should be no excuse not to become a beefcake. Yet the preparation is just the beginning; you still have to do the work. Yes, there will be times when you’d rather stay in bed or stare at the television. And through the process, you no doubt will wrestle with feelings ranging from doubt, disappointment, fear and anxiety, to just wanting to give up. However, the life-changing, positive rewards will far outweigh anything spinning in your head tempting you toward mediocrity.
You’ve set a goal and your success depends on one factor: YOU and your commitment to action and excellence in yourself.
A Commitment to Relationship Excellence
A similar commitment can also be applied to how you approach your current (or soon to be) intimate relationship. After all, do you want to have an unhappy relationship filled with misery, fighting, ultimately lousy sex (I mean really lousy), and have it all crash and burn into anger, resentment and a potentially huge alimony and child support bill?
Have you thought about your relationship skills? What are relationship skills, anyway?
We go to the gym to strengthen our bodies. We attend school to sharpen our minds. We focus our thoughts on a higher power to propel our spiritual well being. Yet, what do we do to focus our emotions and actions to becoming ever stronger in our intimate relationships?
Put simply, isn’t building a strong, intimate relationship one of the most important things you can do in your life? So, what can you do to realize a healthy and fulfilling relationship with a life partner? Where’s your Relationship Gym?
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